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Everything changes

If I recall vividly, earlier this year, it was a bit cold and dry for those living in the tropics and cold and snowy for those living in the temperate regions. Summer is already here then autumn followed by winter and the cycle continues. At those various times of the year, temperature fluctuates and humans have to adapt. The same applies to cycles of human existence.

The fact that you woke up today with a large grin on your face doesn’t guarantee same for the following day. Circumstances, events and people have major influences on our feelings but we do not have to dwell on it because that too shall pass. We are guilty of wanting a good moment to last forever and that is okay but residing in those moments is like creating a fantasy in your mind which hurts when reality gives you otherwise. So, you can say it is indeed an ‘expectation versus reality story’.

Please I am not saying you shouldn’t have expectations. All I am saying is that amidst your expectations and work to achieve them, do not wrap your emotions around your expectations so much so that you are suicidal when expectations don’t come true.

Ashley loved playing outside during her leisure while growing up as a child. As she grew, her leisure was shortened as she had to put more time and energy into reading. She wished she had more leisure but as time went on, leisure was a thing of ‘those days’. School work, house chores and puberty constituted her free time. She tried all she could but to no avail rather, all she got were stressful nights, regrets, pools of tears and emotional trauma. It was then she realized that to cope with change, she needed adaptation.

I may not be aware of the changes you face in life often but those I know would be vital. You should be willing to let go of bad times that went before, live in the present while hoping and working for better days. Every living being can adapt to change and you are a living being. Amidst your adaptation, be careful to avoid getting stressed out, depressed, pessimistic, dejected, ripped, down and out and lots more. If this means you cutting out people that do not help you positively to achieve the life you want, so be it. If your schedule will be affected for the better, effect that change. List things to do to help you adapt.

The discussions below will give more ideas on how to cope with change.

What is adapting to change?

To realize the intended benefits of a major change, the people affected must possess sufficient energy for the adaptation process to unfold. The capacity to adapt involves the mental, emotional and physical means to incorporate new mindsets and behaviors.

Why do we need to accept change?

It is important to accept in a positive manner as it helps you be flexible. It is suggested to stop cowering from fear, develop defenses and fear away from you.

Why is change difficult to accept?

People resist change because they believe they will lose something of value, or fear they will not be able to adapt to the new ways.

It’s significant change to their daily routine, which is deeply emotional because it threatens their level of safety and security.